The woman who hosted and financed her brother’s wedding is praised online and why

She said the woman who had willingly agreed to host her brother’s wedding and provide some of the funds rescinded the offer. newsweek About the family drama that became a hot topic on the internet.

The 31-year-old, who calls herself “Terrible Horror” on Reddit, took to the social media platform for advice and posted that she was “considering canceling” her wedding ceremony with her 28-year-old and 25-year-old brothers. did. -An old girlfriend.

After the passionate messages, the final problem was a clash between the woman and her would-be sister-in-law, which caused the wedding plans to go up in flames.

“While directing the children to leave the room, I told her to get out of my sight within three seconds before the inferno descended on her,” said the mother of four. Newsweek.

newsweek We are unable to confirm all details regarding this incident.

the wedding was put on hold

A Reddit post detailing the first drama (which you can read here) describes a European woman in Colorado who “owned a house on a mountainside surrounded by woods. It was truly amazing and a dream come true.” has come true,” he explains.

The house was so charming that her brother’s fiancé had her eye on it as a destination wedding venue.

“I was hesitant about having our wedding in my dream home, but I can totally see my dream home being their dream venue. I told him we could definitely do it.” But there were some rules,” the woman wrote. Her brother had approached her about hosting.

She agreed, but laid down four rules, including no more than 25 guests, no smoking, and no choosing decorations that could break or permanently damage the property.

“I offered to decorate and find a caterer. That would be their gift. I’m currently putting almost $10,000 into my ‘gift.’ Because it was my brother’s wedding and it’s what I wanted to do,” Redtar continued.

But despite her efforts, the family’s plans for a fairytale wedding soon fell apart.

“Now his fiancée has decided he needs at least 45 guests. I was willing to be flexible with one or two more, but 20? No. wants me to pay for him to fly his family to Colorado.I gave the money to my other brother, who will give it back to me when he can actually afford the ticket. ,” the woman explained.

“I told her no and she got furious. She also asked me to build a pergola, paint the living room and pay for drinks.

“I said no, I’ve done enough. She now tells me that I’m going to keep my promise, that I left her hanging, and that I’m going to have a super expensive wedding.” “She made the plan herself. She even disinvited my grandparents just to make me angry. Why did I “I get at least two messages a day asking if I’m ruining her day or if I’m jealous,” she added.

She said in the post that she was “considering canceling everything” and expressed concern about putting her brother in a difficult position.

family fallout

But then things came to a head when the two women had a confrontation at a family gathering.

A woman who chose to remain anonymous said: newsweek: “I told her and her brother that my house doesn’t suit her needs and is causing stress to her to the point where she talks bad about the children, so by providing a venue I need to give the children appropriate gifts.” I said that I no longer feel like I’m doing catering and decorations.

“I told them I felt like I was limiting their options too much and getting in the way of their dream wedding in an attempt to protect my home, and as a result, I was no longer officiating. ” she added.

The couple’s reactions to the news were mixed, she continued. “My brother seemed relieved, admitted that he didn’t really want a destination wedding and that the planning stage had gotten a little out of hand, thanked me for my cooperation, and made the offer. “They wanted me to repay the deposit I had lost,” but although I thanked them, I refused.

“His S.O. [significant other]But she accused me of being narrow-minded, jealous, and going out of my way to stress her out and ruin her day because “I’m single and no one needs me.” ”

Later, as more family members joined in, the bride-to-be made selective comments about the woman’s two adopted children.

she said newsweek“My father intervened and said it was definitely better for her to leave and said he was sorry to my brother but this was unacceptable.

“My brother agreed, took his family home, and called me afterwards to apologize and tell me that wedding plans were on hold until she ‘came back to her senses.’”

What does the comment say?

Since being shared to the social media platform on February 24, the Reddit post has been upvoted 5,000 times and also received comments from thousands of people.

“At that point, regardless of the venue, I wouldn’t have gone even if she asked me to,” one user wrote.

Another Redditor added, “Cancel the wedding. Block her. If anyone cares about it, please send those screenshots.”

“Yes, please cancel and return as much of the deposit as possible. You don’t need a wedding to get married. They can go to court. Marriage is important, right?” said a third person. .

Expert decision: Cancel everything

newsweek We asked therapist Frank Shoes, owner of Path Forward Therapy in New Jersey, for his perspective on the tense situation and advice for women.

“I think she’s doing the right thing by everyone if she cancels everything. She’s not going to mess with her brother. Her brother’s fiancé is her outrageous and strained relationship.” I’m ruining him with my behavior,” Shoes said. newsweek.

“They can just cancel. They can find their own venue and invite whoever they want. Everyone will be better off in the long run. This woman has already lost her brother’s I’ve done too much for my seemingly ungrateful fiancée, and it’s not enough.”

“There are no real relationships here that can be repaired. If a woman’s brother is angry with her, he should ask her who he is married to and why he treats his own sister this way.” “We need to reflect a little bit on whether we are allowing this,” he added.

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